Are Your Goals Trying to Fit Into an Already Full Life?

Hey, it’s early February.
Are you starting to feel a subtle shift with your New Year’s goals?

Maybe it feels a little harder to work toward them than it did a few weeks ago.
Or maybe you’re starting to question whether you chose the right goal at all.

• Did I take on more than my current life can support?
• Does this goal actually fit how I work best right now?
• Is this the right season in my life for this?

If that’s you, let me tell you something important: you’re not doing anything wrong.
And it doesn’t mean the goal itself is wrong either.

What’s likely happening is simple.

The New Year momentum is fading, and reality is checking in, not to challenge your commitment, but to show you whether your life can actually support the goal you set.

Most goals don’t fall apart because you stop wanting them.
They fall apart because they were added on top of an already full schedule.

When new habits get stacked onto a packed calendar, motivation fades, not because the goal is wrong, but because the system can’t hold it.

Think about it, how many times have you set a goal, felt strong for a few weeks, and then slowly faded out?

I don’t think that’s a motivation or discipline problem.
I think it’s a capacity problem.

So let me ask you something important.

When you set this goal at the New Year, what did you remove from your already full schedule to make room for it?

Most of us are great at adding; adding to our to-do list, our calendar, our expectations.
Very rarely do we let go, take something away, or intentionally make space.

And listen, you don’t need to have everything figured out yet.
We’re only four weeks into the year. Give yourself some grace.

But you do need to pause long enough to see the full picture of what you’re managing before asking yourself to do more.

I’m in this too.

I still want my goals this year, deeply. And yes, momentum has faded for me as well. I’ve learned that if I want something, I can’t rely on a season or a time of year to “carry me”, I have to make space for what I say matters. Early January, I looked at my calendar and made a few intentional yeses, and some firm nos.

If I wanted to take on a full semester of school, nightly TV had to go (sorry, Netflix).
If I wanted to stay energized in a demanding corporate role, sitting for eight straight hours without movement couldn’t continue (hello, walking pad).

Nothing extreme. Just honest trade-offs.

Your goals don’t need to be added to your calendar.
They need to fit into it.

So before you decide to push harder or question whether the goal is still right, I want you to do one thing.

Take five quiet minutes this week, reflect on your New Year goal(s) and ask yourself:

• What did I add to my life in January to support this goal(s)?
• What did I remove or reduce to make space for it to exist?
• Where does my week feel tight or crowded?

No fixing yet. No forcing. Just noticing.

Clarity comes before consistency.
And sometimes the most supportive thing you can do for a goal is make space for it.

Much love and grace,

Erin